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Crisis Intimacy, by Christie & Glen Hoos

A prevailing myth in our society says that during times of extreme crisis, many (if not most) marriages falter and fail. Certainly it was something we were told time and time again when we faced our own tragedies. Grief counsellors and social workers cautioned us about this danger after the stillbirths of both our sons Noah and Simon, and even the birth of our beautiful daughter Rebecca, who has Down Syndrome. In all three cases, we were told that 75% couples in our situation divorce within the next few years.

At first we accepted this information without question. Certainly we were under heavy strain at these times, and we knew we needed to work extra hard to protect our marriage through it. But through these experiences we discovered just the opposite: times of great pain and stress can actually strengthen, rather than destroy, your relationship. <read more>